For some reason I couldn’t sleep last night. I decided to take a piping hot shower and while I was doing so, a crazy idea popped into my head as I reflected on my new situation away from my family and my friends and really all that I know and am familiar with. For some reason, I felt as if I have no idea what it means to Love others. I love you is a common phrase I use with my friends and family, but are they more than words? As this realization weighed on my heart I became upset with what my idea of love has become. It has become an emotion driven by satisfaction in my situations, contentment in my relationships and the acceptance of those around me. I am missing the point so I decided to look at the one who taught us to Love and this is what I found.
First, I discovered that it is unfair to limit the word love. It should not be defined by an emotion or feeling one has. Love should be defined through action, because action is love in motion. What is easier…? To say you love Christ, or to show that you love Christ? When we look at the biblical application of love, we see that it is defined through action. John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” God acts on his love for us in the sacrifice of his only Son Jesus. He does not lie in wait. Christ tells us in Matthew 16:24 “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.” In that verse alone there are 4 calls to action; the act of perusal, the act of denying oneself, the act of taking up your cross, and the act of following. Christ says again that “If you love me, you will obey my commands.” It is apparent that love should imply action. We can say we love, but that love will not be true until our words are met hand in hand with action. “Love requires action”
My second revelation comes from the understanding that God loved us first and will continue to love us no matter what we do to not deserve it! I call this conviction. A devoted promise full of persistence and tenacity in the way God loves us. God loves us so much that He meets each one of us exactly where we are. More often than not I exercise my love for God when things are good. For example, I am much more prone to love and glorify God in my current situation because it is a circumstance that is desirable to me. In the same way we are much more appreciative of blessings when we feel that we need them the most. Something good always seems better when it happens in the midst of bad. All I have to say to myself is “Weak dude… So weak!” There is no conviction in this love I practice. Shouldn’t a blessing be a blessing all the same regardless of the situation? I want the conviction to love God and love others through the best and the worst of circumstances. It’s funny that we think we have the power to determine when we need God. The simple reality is that we need God the most ALL THE TIME. There is no stopping this love of conviction for one another. “Love is driven by conviction”
The last renovation in the way I understand love requires us to disconnect from our human understanding of desire. Speaking from self experience, desire is a need or a want that can be met and fulfilled…satisfied. Our innate human condition is to have a need and meet it to acquire satisfaction. Our lives have turned into a constant need for satisfaction. As an athlete the word that comes to mind is perseverance. As I think about this need to find satisfaction, I relate it to having the perseverance to love even when there is no satisfaction. God loves us with perseverance greater than any passion or desire we can possibly imagine for ourselves. Persevering love implies a reckless pursuit of intimacy with our Lord with the understanding that satisfaction will never be achieved. It is impossible to be completely satisfied with God. Some of you may be shouting “BLASHPHEMY” right now, but think about what our earthly lives are like. If any of you have ever met with God and walked away from the intimacy of that relationship, you would know what I am talking about. There is no way to walk away from God not wanting more. God loves us knowing that some of us will never love Him back. He weeps for us, He delights in us. I’m not talking about a pat on the back or a moment of disappointment; I’m talking about weeping on both ends. Joy so extravagant all one can do is cry and a pain so deep, words can’t physically be spoken. That is the way God loves each and every one of us. I am a fool for convincing myself I can be content in this life. Every relationship, every moment with God should be spent with this untamable desire for more. I chose perseverance because this way to love is painful and hard, but in the moment after the hardship and the pain, it is the most rewarding. Christ tells us the greatest commandment is to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul and all your strength.” We are called to love in such a way that it physically, emotionally and spiritually drains us to the point where there is no other way to be revived than to love some more! I think of David and how he pleads with God to show him more and give him more. David asks God to make him like a willow planted by a creek constantly being filled up. To love God and love others knowing you will never be content because it is so good is perseverance. “Love is to persevere”
I am fully aware how obnoxiously hard it is to try and love others the way God loves them, but God loves with perfection. I think He would appreciate it if we just tried. He acted on his love for us so we have the opportunity to do so. His conviction to love us should be reassuring in the act of failure because He will be there waiting to love us through the bad and the good. His perseverance should give us a notion of what true love is and motivate us to never be satisfied. Want more out of this life. Want more out of God.
God Bless